Multiple Faces Detected
November 28th, 2022
If you tend to initially meet your romantic partners in person through a bar, work, or leisure activity, then you might be used to relying on your best face-to-face attributes. Perhaps you’re good looking, sociable, or typically have a good wingman or woman by your side, to help break the ice.
However, social networking and dating sites take away the prospect of having a wing-person and leave the intrigue and wooing digital, and up to you and you alone. Particularly on Tinder, the competition can be fierce, as the next guy or girl is just a swipe away. A bad photo or a goofy profile can turn off suitors as fast as someone with halitosis might in ‘real’ life.
Tip On How To Get More Dates On Tinder!
Choose Your Profile Photo Wisely:
It’s not ALL about how you look, but (let’s face it) it matters! You don’t have to be a beauty king or queen, as types vary and there is someone for everyone, but you should take time to pick an initial photo that represents you well. It needn’t be a professional photo (in fact that might cause people to suspect you’re a scammer or catfish), but it should show off your best attributes. This doesn’t mean a half naked photo, but one that shows your face and personality.
Have More Than One Photo:
One photo rouses suspicion that you aren’t who you say you are or don’t look like your one photo may suggest. A range of photos… from casual selfies or head-shots, to full body images are more helpful. Tinder users want to know that the person they take the time to meet in person, for a date, is going to represent the image they projected online.
Don’t Choose A Landscape Shot
Your main profile photo doesn’t have to be an extreme closeup, but it should be clear enough to be viewed easily and ‘swiped right’ on. Remember, most are using Tinder on their cell phone, and not all cell phone screens are as big as a iPhone Plus! If your profile photo can’t be easily viewed without extra effort, time, or clicking on it, many will end up swiping left, or ‘no’ as it’s too much trouble to investigate each photo when there’s another one a click away.
Be Alone In Your Photo:
Posing next to your more attractive roommate or college friend will not help you. People who are new to your profile might not know who you are and might actually be swiping ‘yes’ because they like the look of the guy or girl next to you, instead of you! One exception is if you are an animal lover and, while still having a clear profile photo, use a photo of yourself with your pet. Just be aware that this may weed out those who aren’t sure whether they want close contact with a pet.
Profiles With A Boost:
What makes you unique? What are the hobbies or activities you want to share with your partner? Proud of your job or like to travel? Mention that, but try and mention at least two activities instead of only one. For example, instead of merely listing that you like to travel, try combining it with another activity you adore, so it’s something like, “Yogi Traveller” or “Love Sailboats And Concerts”. Even that little glimpse into your world and personality will be more of a hook to woo a mate or date with some shared interests.
Showcase Your Hobbies:
Similar to the above, include a photo or two of yourself participating in your favorite hobbies, so viewers (ahem, ‘swipers’) know you’re action oriented and not just placing fun activities on your bucket list.
Your profile should have some details about your life: Blank is never good. Blank profiles denote scammers, hook ups only, or someone who is too lazy to fill out a profile and won’t be much fun in person. Be funny. Be yourself. That might seem like a lot of pressure to do in a few lines or sentences, but it can be done. Saying ‘something’ is better than saying nothing. Your profile doesn’t need to be overly wordy, but it can be fun, honest, and succinct.
Timing Is Everything:
When you meet someone you’re interested in, in person, you typically strike up conversation. From there, you look to make a connection with some wit and likability before you ask for their phone number or arrange a date, Tinder is the same. If you immediately move to trying to meet, you’ll seem like you’re desperate, not discriminating in your tastes, or uninteresting. However, you also don’t want to be the person who engages in weeks of conversation, growing more and more dull, without a date. A better strategy is to write or reply with a somewhat savvy and witty opening, where you share a few (not too many!) details about yourself, reference something in their profile, and leave them wanting more. If you’ve been communicating regularly for a week, then move to a suggested meeting. This is not to say that you have to wait a week, it might be less time or more, but five days is usually enough time to man or woman up and suggest meeting. If you’re frantically replying to their every message, dozens a day, then this time will likely decrease. However, pace yourself! If you like someone, don’t manic message them, but don’t wait too long either. Let the relationship or connection, even though it began online, evolve organically.
