You meet someone online claiming that they serve in the military when in fact, they are lying has grown to epidemic proportions. With an increase in social media and online dating, this problem has become more common than you can imagine. Continue reading to learn how to check if a soldier is real.
Red Flags That He Is Not a Real Soldier:
He Is in Special Operations
If he says that he is in a special ops unit and therefore cannot give you any information, that is a red flag. Special Ops guys do not discuss that. They are held to secrecy and do not brag about it. They are quiet professionals.
He Has Been Denied Leave
He has been deployed for over two years and has been denied time off, and again cant meet you in person. If soldiers were being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be public knowledge as everyone would be in an uproar. It would make the six o’clock news.
He Is on a Top-Secret Mission
Again, as with “Special Ops” guys, top-secret soldiers DO NOT talk about it. Any special forces soldier worth his beret does not reveal that information to someone he doesn’t know or even someone he doesn’t know!
Everyone He Knows Is Dead
He says one or a combination of his wife died and his children, he was orphaned. Poor Me! Some people are unlucky, but the odds of all his loved ones being gone are slim to none and used for the sympathy factor.
He Has No Mailing Address
He is always changing locations or is in a classified unit and cannot be reached or investigated by Social Catfish. A heads up for you, even in special operations, he would have an APO address. This is not a post office box, and it is not in Nigeria or Afghanistan. It has nothing to do with Western Union your email should not have to go through a relative.
He Needs Money for Leave to See You
If is tell you that he needs money for his R&R leave so that you can be together, another lie! A real soldier would not request R&R leave money because the military pays for all travel to and from a war zone including emergency travel for the death of a loved one.
He Needs You to Request Leave for Him
He says he can come home if you request leave via email to his superior. This is completely false. If it were that simple, no one would be deployed as they would be on leave from their loved one’s request. In the situation of the death of an immediate family member, the information needs to be verified through the American Red Cross.
He Asks You to Pay for a Phone Line
He asks you to pay for a cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. Soldiers can call home for FREE. This is the sign of a scam artist, and besides, soldiers make enough money to pay for a phone card if they had to.
He’s a General
He’s not even 30, and he’s a General. Unbelievably quick advancement. Less than 11% of officers make it to the rank of General, and it takes at least 20 years of service.
In summary, it’s a scam if:
- He is asking for money for a phone line
- He’s asking for money to come home on R&R
- He needs you to move money from one location to another
- He needs your bank information
- He wants you to wire him money for any reason
- He asks you to email his superior and requests a leave for him
- He asks you to open a bank account or credit card
These along with the other topics discussed are all helpful tips for you to determine if you are being catfished. The reason this is so common is that we are non-military people are not familiar with the rules and regulations in military life, and it is easy when we care for someone to believe what they tell us when we are not informed and update on military procedures.
We are here to help determine fact from fraud. Social Catfish’s reverse lookup is fully equipped for these types of situations and has helped many people verify if your soldier is real before you are scammed!
One way to verify story is to ask him to email you from his Army email address rather than his email, Yahoo, Hotmail. This will be firstname.lastname@example.org All soldiers have Army email account. There is no reason he cannot provide this to you, regardless of his mission, the unit he is assigned o who he is working for, etc.
Also, beware that military id cards can be fake. They can grab pictures from anywhere on the internet and may not even be the person you are talking to, or they can produce completely false military identification.
Alternatively, you can hire one of our Search Specialist who will take all the information you provide us and do all the hard work for you: