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Regardless of your reason for online dating, there might be times when you want to do an eHarmony search for a specific profile or person.
This could be to locate a past partner, check in on a current love interest, find a dater you lost contact with, or even if you suspect your partner is cheating on you.
The first place to begin is by narrowing down the preferences of what you’re looking. This is done by selecting search stats which match the age, location, appearance, or even interests of the person you have in mind.
Age is perhaps one of the most significant places to start. For example, if the person you are interested in finding is 32 years of age, make that your premiere target age for matches. If you are uncertain of their age, within a year or two, then select broader age range (2-4 years). The smaller the age range, the more luck you may have. However, you don’t want to specify something which you are uncertain.
If you still aren’t entirely sure what age they may have listed, avoid picking on a generation or guessing, as then you will receive limited results.
Drawback? People often lie about their age and misrepresent themselves online. It’s not uncommon for people in their thirties, forties and beyond to change their age by a year or two (or ten). Sometimes this is even done by mistake, as they never listed their correct age on social media sites like Facebook, which they have paired as their log-in information for the website or app.
If you live in a populated area, be prepared that it might take some time to find the person you want, even if you (relatively) know their exact location. It can be helpful when the person you are searching for is using a phone-based version of a dating app that connects to the smartphone’s GPS location services. That way, you are given results for people within miles of wherever you are in that moment.
While some apps like Tinder utilize this, eHarmony search is partial based on cities (“My City” is an option for listing where a user lives, within their profile). If you are not finding the person you want, try changing your search zip to various nearby zip codes to see if that helps.
Drawback? While GPS location services may help, you wouldn’t want to take advantage of the feature (a.k.a. don’t park outside someone’s home or work!).
Also, someone who is cheating or doesn’t want to be found on an app may also alter their real city to a few towns over. Consider if the person you’re searching for may have created their profile before or after a recent move and used the zip of the city they work in, rather than their home address.
This part can get tricky. While you might consider another person “athletic,” perhaps they consider themselves modestly “average.” As terms of aesthetics can have different connotations to different people, only select one preference for appearance or ethnicity if you are positive, that is the only one they would choose.
If you aren’t one hundred percent sure, choose several options, while keeping other results as pinpointed as possible.
Drawback? Someone who wants to keep their real identity under wraps, if already in a relationship or married, might choose a profile picture which isn’t an immediate giveaway. Take the time to look into any obscure main profile photos, if the profile sounds close to your anticipated match.
Searching for specific usernames and profile names is a helpful tool. If an individual has a particular moniker or nickname they use most of the time, search that username first.
Drawback? Many times people try and create they’re specific, well-loved username only to find out it was previously used by another and is unavailable, which could have happened to your match.
Even if you really (really) want to find someone on dating sites, spending hours, only to have limited returns, is not healthy and, ultimately, is too much of a time investment. While there are situations (particularly when someone is suspecting another of infidelity or finding a lost love) where finding the right profile is urgent or very wanted.
If you didn’t get the answer you came for, it’s time to get help. Instead of feeling the emptiness of not getting the answers you are looking for day after day, consider getting back-up support and use sites like Social Catfish.
Social Catfish is a great way to incorporate your people search into a fine-tuned algorithm, which gives you the ability to launch a full search strategy by searching email addresses, names, details, social media profiles, user profiles and more.
Social Catfish is comprehensive and while exploring on your own through sites like eHarmony, may have left you disappointed. Social Catfish can often locate individuals on site which you didn’t even previously suspect you’d find them on.
Also, I would like to add that if your eHarmony search is not very successful or if you want an experienced professional to do it for you, hire one of our Search Specialists to do all the heavy lifting for you!