20 Signs Your Online Boyfriend/Girlfriend is Cheating on You

By Susannah Birch, September 7, 2015

There are a wide variety of indicators that may indicate that your online boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you. Note that one of these signs alone might not raise a red flag, however if you are experiencing a combination of these, then it might be time to reassess your relationship.

They’re is too busy to call

While much of your online relationship may be conducted online, if he/s
always claims he/she is too busy to call, then it might just be that they’re spending time with someone else. No person is so busy that they can’t find time to call the person they love.

They’re aren’t answering your calls

True, your SO may not be available all of the time, however, if they’re only available when it suits him, then something is definitely wrong. Not answering any of your calls and only contacting you at their convenience, does not bode well.

He/She isn’t online as often

Once an attentive online partner, if their online patterns have altered recently or they’re always ‘away’, then you can bet there is good reason. Assuming that he/she is not celebrating a recent promotion or does not have a valid excuse as to why, then chances are they’ve found a new friend offline – or even online.

He/She is communicating less

If you are left sitting at home on a Saturday night wondering why your they haven’t contacted you, or their overall communication has declined, then all the signs are there. A change in behavior or patterns is forewarning that something has changed in your relationship.

You calls seem rushed

While you may enjoy those hurried 5 minute calls in between meetings or breaks, if all of your calls follow a similar pattern then they are most likely hiding something. Relationships need to be nurtured to last the distance and communication is key to long term success. If they always hang up in a hurry, there’s a problem.

They won’t acknowledge your relationship online

If your SO’s online status lists himself/herself as single or they never publicly acknowledges you as their girlfriend/boyfriend, then something is definitely wrong. You need a partner who is happy to be with you and willing to shout it from the rooftops if necessary. If they’re not willing to tell their friends and family, your SO obviously doesn’t take your relationship seriously, no matter what excuse they use.

Their stories are full of holes

If you think you have caught your SO out on a lie or their story sounds false, then trust your gut. When the inconsistencies are mounting up faster than Mount Everest and he/she can’t account for their time, then your SO is obviously hiding something. If they starts to blame you for suspicious things they’ve done (known as gaslighting), it’s definitely time to dig deeper.

They makes you feel unimportant

Relationships are meant to benefit both parties, so if you are left feeling unimportant or unloved, then something is not working. Of course feel free to broach the subject with your SO, but whenever they claim that it is all in your mind then clearly you are not number one on his/her priority list.

His/Her conversations seem less personal

Something has changed between the two of you and those romantic calls are few and far between. If calls are becoming more routine and less spontaneous or romantic, then their mind is definitely elsewhere.

Your partner becomes unreliable

Your partner doesn’t call when they say they would or they’re not online as promised? These signs of unreliability mean that you are not as important as you once were.

They keep referring to other males/females

If your online SO constantly peppers a conversation with a new female/male colleague or friend then he/she might just be carrying a torch for her or even seeing her on the side. Listen and learn.

They’re is moodier than usual

Moodiness or anger is often a sign of someone’s own faults or misdeeds. If he/she is angry at you for no apparent reason then it might just be a sign of their own guilt at play.

They call you out for being unfaithful

If they accuse you of being unfaithful when they have no cause for concern, your SO might just be looking for a way out. The pot calling the kettle black springs to mind.

Your significant other’s career have them traveling more than usual

If your online boyfriend/girlfriend is traveling more than usual with their job then it might just be a case of some extracurricular overtime. Even businessmen and woman who travel have time to call home occasionally.

They constantly pick fights with you

If they pick a fight with you on a regular basis then something is obviously wrong in paradise. It might be a case of their own internal guilt or they might just be biding their time to use the negative situation as a way to say goodbye.

They stop saying I love you

If they stops telling you that they love you either in their online conversations or over the telephone then heed the warning. A trustworthy online boyfriend/girlfriend does not run from hot to cold overnight.

They don’t want to discuss the future

If your significant other doesn’t want to discuss the future of your relationship then maybe they’re just into you for the short term or until something better comes along. You deserve at least this kind of discussion once in your relationship.

They becomes offended when you question their behavior

If your online SO turns into a prickly pear when you start asking him about his/her whereabouts or actions, look out. Supposing that nothing is happening and he/she is just busy as they claim, your questions need not spark any arguments.

Your SO starts criticizing you for no reason

If your SO starts criticizing you and talking you down, a change from his/her usual charming behavior, ask them what’s up. Again they might be looking for a way out and arguments and criticism might just be high on their to-do list.

They refuse to meet up with you

If, despite all your requests, your online boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t have time to meet up with you, something has got to give. An online relationship, in order for it to continue being a relationship, needs to evolve and a meet up in person is the only way to progress it along.